Looking to spice things up in your sex life but not sure what to do or where to start? Feeling a little bored in the bedroom and need to change things up? Adding a little bondage to mix might be just what you need. Being bound (and possibly gagged) may seem intimidating a first but you may be pleasantly surprised at how exhilarating it can get. Here is some advice that will help get you started in the right direction.

Bondage is a great opportunity to try out new and exciting things in the bedroom, whether it is sensual and provocative or to rouse your sex life to a whole new world of BDSM (Bondage, discipline, dominance and submission sadism, masochism). The great thing about bondage is that it is versatility, it can be whatever you want it to be. Let your imagination and fantasies come to life, exploring new roles with you partner and pushing the boundaries as far as you would comfortably (or uncomfortably) like to go.

Simply, bondage is not only handcuffs and whips. It is achieving sexual fulfilment through the act of being physically restrained and mentally controlled by one partner to the other so it is important to engage this activity with a trusted partner. People are attracted to this play for many different reasons. Some like being tied up to relax and enjoy being given pleasure without having to worry about giving pleasure back to their partner at the same time. While others prefer to play-struggle against their restraints, building up an invigorating adrenaline rush. It is a great opportunity to experiment with being submissive or dominant, some couples stick to their roles while others like to change it up.

Communication is also imperative! It can be hard to know your own comfort level if you have never tried certain things before but we all have limits. Take it slow and talk to your partner about any concerns you both may have, you may find as you venture deeper into the bondage world your comfort levels will shift and evolve. Be open-minded and willing to try different things, it can take a few attempts before you know how you really feel about something.

A safe word is very important, it should be something completely random, you may get caught up in the moment and not realise that your partner may not be enjoying the experience. You may never have to use it but better be safe than sorry. Often when couples are role playing the word no is more often a tease and not always taken as a no, this is why couples must set ground rule beforehand and come up with a safe word that truly means no. Both participants must be consenting through the entire experience.

When starting out with bondage there are many implements you can use. Start slow and easy with a scarf or tie as these materials are soft on the skin and least likely to chafe. There is also your typical furry handcuffs, that have a dramatic effect when first pulled out of a drawer but can get uncomfortable with prolonged usage. You can also get synthetic or leather cuffs which come in a wide variety and fit much more comfortably since they are able to form more around the wrist and ankles, moving and bending more naturally. As your bondage play matured you can upgrade to full body bondage with bed restraints, hog ties, bondage rope and much, much more...