If you’re looking for a way to bring some excitement to the bedroom, trying bondage could be just what you need. Have you ever wondered what it would be like to be tied up by your lover and blindfolded while being pleasured? You might be surprised to know that it is a much more common sexual fantasy for both men and women than you may think. Bondage is a broad term, and you and your partner may have different views on what is sexy and what is scary!

This guide will aim to walk you through some of the best reasons to give bondage a go. You don’t have to go to extremes to enjoy the darker thrills of bondage, and as we’ll show, there are plenty of ways it can be mutually enjoyable and low risk at the same time.
 

4 Reasons Why You Should Try Bondage

1) Reducing Ability Leads to Heightened Sensitivity

When one sense or ability is restricted, it can often amplify the supporting sensory functions. Perhaps as a kid, you played the game where you were blindfolded and had to try a variety of different foods. Without the aid of sight, your sense of smell and taste send stronger pulses to your brain as it attempts to understand what it cannot see. Bondage works in a similar way.

Blindfolding is perhaps the best place for anyone new to bondage to start, but is still one of the most enjoyable practices. Our vision, and the memory of things we’ve seen greatly impact our perception of the world around us. When that’s taken away, our minds are forced to anticipate everything. Using this as a means of stimulating your partner works to no end. Not knowing where the next touch or kiss will land will have your partner's skin crawling with anticipation. Anything can be used as a blindfold, but remember you will want a material that’s soft around the eyes and does not allow for any sneaky peeking.

 
Moving up a notch from blindfolds, comes physical restraints. These can range from lace ribbons, furry handcuffs, leather cuffs or body harnesses. The variety out there is only limited by your imagination. But in general you want something that won’t be too harsh on the skin, even when tied tight.

The joy from using a physical restraint comes in the surrender of physical power, and again is great for both the men and women. Being restrained creates an interesting dynamic. You are powerless, but at the same time, you are free to pull and resist against your restraint with all your strength. This deprives you of that initial reaction, to flinch, or close up. It leaves you open and in turn forces you to open your mind to whatever your partner believes will please you.

2. Opening Up Possibilities

We tend to think of bondage as something that inhibits us, but for many people, bondage is also a means of enabling us to do much more in the bedroom.

Rope and cuffs can be used to hold your legs or arms in sex positions that may be difficult to otherwise maintain. Restraints can give you that extra bit of leverage to hold positions longer or achieve deeper penetration.

If there is a significant difference in size between you and your partner, then bondage could make certain positions possible that could be sometime uncomfortable. Think about using restraints to spread the legs, or hold the body off the ground. Swings can be a great tool here, and although not exactly a beginner item, it opens a tantalising array of options – although, they’re not the easiest things to hide!  

3. The Ultimate Trust Builder

As you lay in bed, while your partner blindfolds, and ties you to the bed frame, you have relinquished full control of your body to your partner. This is as true an expression of trust as there could be. You are allowing your partner to access you with no resistance, at your most vulnerable. You surrender all defence and power. If you consider how you feel when on a rollercoaster – you have no control over the speed or direction of the ride. All you are able to do is trust that it won’t fail. Bondage works on the same principle, releasing all your control, and relying purely on your trust for your partner creates an emotional high that is hard to top.

4. The Most Important Reason

Aside from the above, the most important reason to try bondage is because it’s fun! Sex is an adventure, and there are no set rules as to how it should be done. The process of experimentation between you and your partner should seek to open as many doors as possible, from there you can gain a true understanding of what you both enjoy.