For some reason, there’s still a bit of a stigma surrounding the use of lubricants in the bedroom. The term used to conjure up thoughts of elderly women suffering from dryness and unable to enjoy a satisfying sex life. But in reality, lubricants are arguably the most important sex enhancer out there for both men and women. They’re an inexpensive way to increase your overall pleasure and come in a range of scents and flavours.

Using lubrication during sex is a great way of preventing damage to the sensitive points on the penis and vagina, and can increase the sensations of intercourse. Particularly for masturbation and play with toys, properly lubricating can mean your fun can last a lot longer - and is far easier on your genitalia.

Forums are full of stories of people finding ways to improvise lubrication. Saliva, cooking oil, vaseline, butter…! The list goes on. And while we would suggest using lubricants for sex and play with toys, it’s also important you use the right ones.

Let’s Start With What to Avoid

Some initial consideration should be given to any particular allergies you may have. If concerned, try a small sample of your chosen lubrication first to see how your body reacts.

Reading the ingredients label of any lubricant is a bit like going through a chemistry text-book. But there are things you really want to look out for.

Avoid: Glycerine and Propylene Glycol. These substances increase the osmolality of the lube and can cause increased stinging and for some yeast infection.

Also Avoid: Nonoxynol 9, Chlorhexedine Gluconate, Petroleum Oils, Polyquaternium-15, Benzocaine, Sugars & Sugar Alcohols, Ureas. Anyone of these could increase the chances of STI transmission, killing off good bacteria and allowing an increase in bad bacteria.

If you want to know more about how the chemical composition of your lubricants can affect you, there is a fantastically in-depth article here at dangerouslilly.com

Choosing the Right Lubrication

Water Based Lubricants

Water based lubricants are the “all rounder” of lubrication. They’re safe for all sexual activities, can be used with silicone sex toys and even latex condoms. Water based lubricants are the most popular choice of lubricant. They’re inexpensive, don’t stain and aren’t harmful if swallowed during sex in small amounts.

Water based lubricants also tend to be best for those with sensitive skin. On balance, they contain fewer substances that would be considered irritants, and so there’s less chance of any unexpected pain or sensitivity during use.

The Sliquid Natural Lubricant is a fantastic example of a water based lubricant that does nearly everything. All Sliquid lubes are free of DEA, gluten, glycerine, glycerol, parabens and PEG. They’re created to emulate the body's natural moisture and deliver a velvety smooth sensation.

Oil Based Lubricants

The main advantage of an oil based lubricant over a water based lubricant is that they last a lot longer. Being thicker and more creamy, they can last longer during sex and provide a wonderfully smooth experience. Oil based lubricants however are not safe for use with latex condoms or diaphragms, which means there can be some issues for those using contraceptives. But this does make them great for use with toys and in masturbation.

Silicone Based Lubricants

Silicone based lubricants last a very long time. They are fantastic for use if playing in the shower or in a pool. You can use silicone lubricants with latex condoms, but they not suitable to use with silicone sex toys. Silicone lubricants will damage other silicone surfaces and cause your toys to leave debris inside of you.

Another downside to silicone lubricants is that they can stain fabrics. This can be real downer on a good time, so be careful when using them as it may leave marks on sheets, or your favourite costumes.

Petroleum Based Lubricants

Things like vaseline and other such ointments are best avoided. Not only do these damage condoms, but they also can change the ph levels of the vagina. This can then lead on to yeast infections and irritation of the vagina.

All Natural - Coconut Oil

Did you know that the same coconut oil you buy from grocery store could work as an all natural lubricant option? Well it can! This option should be considered particularly if you have ever suffered from yeast infection before as amongst its benefits it’s anti-inflammatory, anti-bacterial and anti-fungal and a great moisturizer. Coconut oil may also be preferable to water based lubricants when it comes to anal sex as it tends to last longer and not dry so quickly.

Coconut Oil would not be a good choice to use with latex condoms as they would eventually degrade the condom (like other oil based lubricants).

One Last Tip

Whichever lubricant you use, warm it up first by squirting a bit into your hand and rubbing it between your palms before applying to the genitals. Remember, a little can go a long way.